The mother-in-law asked to "suffer half of the year at the end of the year" to scare her daughter-in-law! Should a daughter-in-law give filial piety? What if you don t want to give it to

The year is approaching, will all wives receive the end of the year bonus? A female netizen revealed in the commune that she and her husband had been married for a year and lived with her mother-in-law. She was not particularly familiar with her mother-in-law's life habits. Recently, she received a notice from her mother-in-law, saying that the end-of-year bonus would be divided into half of her mother-in-law, which shocked her. After asking her husband, she found out that her sister-in-law was the same, which made her ask her netizens: "Can I really only give it to her?"

The female netizen said that she and her husband were My husband was married for about a year. Because he didn't have enough money to buy a house, he lived in his mother-in-law's house. He said that he would move out after saving money when he bought the house. Every month, two people would give her a living fee of 10,000 yuan. However, the year is approaching. Her mother-in-law told her that the end-of-year bonus would be distributed to her half, which made her very disappointed. She was worried that she was 5 months pregnant. If she kept giving money, she would probably never be able to move.

A female netizen asked her husband for help, but her husband turned out to be Yet, he replied: "My sister-in-law gave her when she was working." She was speechless, and a netizen left a message below and said: "Don't be too stupid. You should keep the money for confinement and buy baby supplies. The child costs a lot after giving birth." He also suggested to this daughter-in-law: "If you are afraid that the atmosphere at home is too bad, don't tell me how much you will end in the year, just give it a little."

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Why would the mother-in-law ask her daughter-in-law to give her filial piety?

In many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, because the mother-in-law asks the daughter-in-law to pay some money, the daughter-in-law feels dissatisfied. He believes that "I want to be filial and also filial to my biological mother. Why should I give a mother-in-law who has not raised me?" Faced with this century-old difficult problem, first of all, we must first understand "Why does mother-in-law ask for money from my daughter-in-law?"

In most cases, the reasons why daughter-in-law wants to pay mother-in-law are nothing more than the following three:

1. The mother-in-law lives with her mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law makes the meals. The daughter-in-law provides the mother-in-law with living expenses and vegetables.

2. The mother-in-law helps to take children, and the daughter-in-law gives the elderly a fee for comforting the elderly

3. The son wants to make money to be filial to his mother, and his wife handles it. However, if the mother-in-law still asks the daughter-in-law to pay money, it will make many daughter-in-law feel very unbalanced, especially if the daughter-in-law has a private money and wants to respect the elders, the first choice is to give her biological mother first, not the mother-in-law. However, if the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, some daughter-in-law will also be very good for the mother-in-law to make red bags and gifts to the mother-in-law during special days, New Year and other days.

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What if you really don’t want to give it to?

Many daughters and women are stalking in their minds such as imbalance and filial piety. When faced with some more powerful mother-in-law, the forced requirement to give a number of numbers will make their daughters and women feel even more uncomfortable. Huang Yue, an expert of the two sexes, once said that the focus is not on the amount of money, but on whether they feel wronged in their hearts. If they don’t want to give it, they will feel pressured even if they give it a little. If they have gone so much, many things will become simple.

If you think from the perspective of your mother-in-law, Huang Yueyu believes that if your mother-in-law is rational, you can think that even having children may not necessarily be filial to yourself. How can you ask an outsider to respect yourself as a matter of course? What the elders need not to force the latecomer to do, and to strengthen their traditional ideas on the latecomer, but to take good care of themselves and adjust their thoughts. It is not to cater to them, but to try to have a common understanding of everything with the latecomer. I believe that in this way, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be able to reduce a lot of problems.