What was she talking about when her mother said "spinach is delicious"?

When did the mother say "spinach is delicious"? !

Scientist Heinz Rong Forest can help us understand where the toxins in these words are. He described in one of his books that the first female controller we meet in our lives was a mother who said "spinach is delicious." This sentence is an excellent example of a toxic word. In fact, spinach is not delicious, but green.

said that "spinach is green" is to describe its objectivity; said that "spinach is delicious", it is to regard personal views as objectivity of things.

Does this mean that our mother is a bad person? Of course not! Although their expressions are syntactic or syntactic flaws, they just hope we can take this bowl of green spinach soup.

The same is true when someone tells you "you are a change", "you are a patient", "you are a crazy person", etc. These visual descriptions are actually products of two people. These descriptions are considered verb control only when the area between the viewing description and the related property is clearly visible.

This type of verbal control is very common, and it is necessary to learn to recognize it for personal physical and mental health. It covers many situations, which may appear in the company or within the family. In these situations, some people will speak in a silence, even fierce tone, saying "You are a despicable villain (or an indifferent person)".

means that he uses an adjective to define a person's quality, and this definition is actually the product of his relationship with the object of description.

No one is purely mean (or less), controllable, distorted, violent, tender, kind, or generous. But we will show one side of this or that in one relationship, and in another, we will show one side of this side.

Therefore, the problem is not whether spinach is delicious or not, the problem is that the word "yes" is used to convince people that it describes the inherent and unchangeable properties of spinach. The toxin in this sentence is here: we can say that spinach is green, but we can't say that it is delicious. Only those who really think spinach is delicious, and those who want to let children take advantage of spinach in specific situations will say that spinach is delicious. The problem with this is that while they swallow spinach, they also accept a wrong certificate and may be using the same certificate.

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Using established relationships, sucking and numbing the other party, making the other party feel guilty

The words controlled by the side of the relationship appear as: "You are a sick person"; in the family it appears as: "You are a bad father (or son, or mother, etc.); in the field of mental illness it appears as: "You are a double relationship Patients with dysfunction, patients with depression, patients with autopsy, patients with conscious distortion (multiple options). "These words are quite harmful because this false objectivity wraps personal opinions generated in a certain relationship into a positive and positive object, and this absolute certainty usually only involves lifeless objects.

Here, I would like to thank Alfred Korzybski, the founder of ordinary language and philosopher, who told us to be careful of the verb "yes". He thought this verb disturbed human thinking. The real relationship between the two people, although it can be seen in this verb, is not exactly the case in reality.

The use of the word "yes", such as "he is, or you are," should be understood as: "If this person thinks I am, and another person may not think so. These words are not value judgments on me, but rather convey some information to me, with the purpose of using the relationships we have established to consume me, impute me, and make me feel guilty."

※ This article is excerpted from "Toxic Words: Word Control in Secret Relationships".

"Toxic Words: Word Control in Secret Relations"

Author: Robert Newberg

Translator: Yang Yanping

Publisher: Baoping Culture

Publication Date: 2021/01/06

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